Unthinkable

I'm 23, will be 24 in 3 months and until recently I thought I had experienced true love. Speaking with a friend, and listening to her speak on her relationship just opened my mind up to somethings. After the conversation I realized how much I long to be in love and be happy, and I'm not talking about a 'boo thang' 'bae' and all that other foolishness. I mean unconditional, genuine love, and respect. I long to be partners, lovers and friends, with my mate. I want someone to tell me when I'm right and correct me when I'm wrong. I want someone to love me flaws and all, someone to laugh with just because. My friend told me "Ash, one thing about you...when you Love, you Love HARD". "You are with that man 110%". I couldn't deny her statement because its so true. I love love, I love the idea of being in love. I love the thought of being someone's wife, belonging to someone and him being excited about it. I want my potential mate, husband, lover, friend, confidant, my nigha's (lol) eyes to light up when he sees me. How at the end of each day after everything is said and done, what we don't have we don't sweat because we have each other. Now when I think on the things that I want and seek, I ask myself what am I bringing to the table? How can I ask this of my mate, when I'm not there? Then my friend reminded me, if his love is unconditional he will love you...flaws and all. I deserve a love like that, I deserve to share my life with someone great. An unselfish provider, with strength and honesty and loyalty as qualities. Someone who doesn't feel like they're missing out on something. My friend told me that I'm looking and finding guys in the wrong places, but where do I look? The bible says he that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing. Do I just sit and wait for him to find me? What do I do in mean time? There is someone who has the potential to be everything that I seek, but unfortunately he isn't ready...but like like A.keys said...time is only wasting, why wait for eventually? If we gone do something about it, we should do it right now. I guess everybody doesn't share my passion, but that's the thing I want my man to just as passionate about me as I am for him. Everything will happen in God's timing, and I'm trying to be patient...but if you ask me, I'm ready.
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  1. Kia ReneAugust 19, 2011 at 11:30 AM

    Girl, I feel you 110% percent. Love makes me so happy. And I dive head first and think about the consequences later. This one guy I wanted chose to be with some one else and was on twitter today talking about how women can't be trusted, but he had the opportunity to love a woman that would never have hurt him or treated him like anything less than a king. So, I'm being patient. Not looking for it at all anymore. I'm not even so sure I want it to find me any time soon. Sigh...

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  2. AnonymousAugust 19, 2011 at 5:38 PM

    I think the saying that you shouldnt look for love, but it will find you when you least expect it is true. Ive never been a long term relationship chick, yet I find myself in a 5 year relationship and counting. U know I loved my pimp card. But then my bf came into the picture and changed my life. I damn sure wasnt looking for a bf, let alone love. He is probably one of the best things that has happened to me. I guess my advice to you wold be to have patience. Your time will come as soon as God is done preparing a man worthy of your love. Until then, remember I still love you. ~~~Ra-Shay

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